I recognize that I sometimes get very attached to the idea of being understood.
In the times it feels most urgent, I behave like it’s an emergency (which it’s not) and I go to war with disconnection - which makes connecting harder.
It’s really simple: if I value understanding, it’s my job to BE understanding. If I really want connection, it’s my job to BE connecting.
In my truest true nature, I am able to be totally allied with someone in my mind, to the point that they can mistakenly think I’m their mortal enemy and I can be completely fine with that. I can just sit very comfortably in it, with no desire to take that away from them and at the same time have no change in my ability to be completely on their side and to think and act as their ally.
When I’m rooted in my true nature, I am the one understanding everything that needs to be understood. And I don’t need understanding from anybody else.