Helping others is not about the “others.”
If I really want to be helpful, I simply do what I do because it arises effortlessly in me, because I just know to do it. I do not look to the others to confirm whether or not it has been helpful. My “help” is unhelpful when it is attached to what the other person gets, understands, achieves, grasps, changes, learns, etc., which is none of my business.
The only help that is EVER helpful coming from me is my LOVE - love for this moment, for this connection, for this person in front of me, in this situation as it is and, as they are, and as I am, with NO IMPROVEMENT NECESSARY!
If anything needs to change in order for me to be totally in love with what is, I am OUT of love with what is (and innocently out of my mind). And so I am unable to help.
If I don’t love what is, completely, as it IS, I am not seeing what is clearly. My vision could use a little work.
I can help the whole world by simply getting quiet and questioning every thought that stands in the way of my total unconditional love for THIS, right here, right now.
It’s the only help that is 100% helpful.
Any other kind of “help” has something unhelpful in it like…
The idea that there is a past to make right or a future to set up right (unhelpful)
The idea that anything needs improving from what it is (unhelpful)
The idea that anything needs to be guarded against (unhelpful)
The idea that, in reality, there is such a thing as an enemy (unhelpful)
The idea that winning and losing are real things and not just arbitrary opinions (unhelpful)
The idea that anyone, including me, needs anything they don’t have (unhelpful)
The idea that anyone, including me, needs to be spared something they have (unhelpful)
The idea that there is such a thing as a separate anyone (unhelpful)
The idea that anything would stay the same if I don’t do something about it, that I would ever be given that kind of control over, or responsibility for, the rightness of the universe (insanely unhelpful)
The reason is: it’s all born of confusion. Not one of these ideas is true. When my work is rooted in these confused ideas, my help only serves to spread confusion.
Only by LOVING what IS - the always-as-it- should-be-but-never-the-same true nature of reality - can I truly benefit the world. Because the benefit is always there. All I’m called to do is get out of the way of it, flow with it and let it work through me, as it will (or will not).