No negative statement (or sentiment) is forever.
I hate you.
This sucks.
I don’t want that.
I’m angry at you.
You’re an idiot.
I can’t do math.
Even the ones that sound like they are:
It’s hopeless.
You’re dead to me.
You’re not my child.
I never want to see you again.
To translate it to reflect reality, take the statement and drop it into the blank in this sentence: “I am [emotion] and thinking and believing __________ right now.”
It’s not a statement about how things are, and certainly not how things are always going to be, it’s a statement about the speaker’s state of mind at the moment they said it.
No mind ever stays the same forever. Minds change with experience. When a mind experiences something new, new statements come out, statements that reflect the new state of mind brought on by the new experience.
A statement is simply an expression of what one is thinking and believing in the given moment (and it’s often woefully inaccurate - we often say things we don’t mean, particularly when we’re frustrated)
And moments - as well as thoughts and beliefs - are always changing.
If I don’t like or agree with what someone said, I can stay rooted in love, with all the loving words and actions that naturally flow from love, and wait.
It will change.
And while I wait, I can work on what I am thinking and believing.