It seems safer to choose self-denial than to risk denial by others.
But that’s backwards. Because there is no such thing as “denial by others.”
There is only self-denial masquerading as denial by others In order to protect the separate “I” I believe myself to be (otherwise known as my ego).
I blame my denial on “others” so I can think of myself as the victim of denial, rather than the perpetrator.
And let’s be clear: whenever I experience the denial of my self, I am the perpetrator. Every time.
It begins with my belief that I have a self, that there is a “me” separate from a “you” or a “them.”
And then the notion that “denial” is occurring has to pass through my mind and be accepted by me in order to be understood as denial. Mind creates every story of denial, because it creates every story of everything. The world is my state of mind, experienced.
I am the only one who can ever deny, accuse, attack, reject, ignore, or disrespect me.
Ever.
Is it time to stop now?
If it is, I can question every stressful thought of separation and denial.
And discover the kind and peaceful universe prior to my imaginary concepts of separation and denial.